Having one of the many chats a day with the Captain. And he's telling me about one of his Friends, a woman who was once married. It didn't work out and she's lamenting her current state - not sure about dating, not sure about love, not sure about relationships.
And so he tells me, like he's talking to her, how they start talking about long distance relationships. He explains how ours works. And why it works. Yeah it's tough sometimes, but then again, it has its benefits. He's got his job and his responsibilities, his kids, and I have my job, my kids, my responsibilities. We can live our own lives, we share with each other in bits and pieces throughout the day, and when our schedules align we share time together. Yeah sometimes it would be nice to be in the same zip code to grab dinner or a movie or a walk in the park. But the relationship goes so much deeper than convenience or a body/placeholder for social events. She just couldn't grasp it. So he said, "What do you want - to be in a relationship or do you want to be married? Because we tried that. It didn't work. We don't want to try that again. This works. We don't question it."
He just sort of blurted that whole last thing out. I laughed. And said, "Yeah I get that."
I have tried to explain this concept to So. Many. People. So Many People "ASSUME" we must get married, or live together, or move or something. But Us? We are happy with the way things are. Today. Tomorrow. And hopefully the day after that.
This is why what we have Works. He gets it. We get it. We can't seem to explain it to anyone else - to friends, to family, to coworkers. I can't even articulate it here. But maybe I don't have to. Because? He gets me.