Sunday, November 9, 2008

She's BAAAAACCCCK Oh Yes She Is

Well, as many of my bloggy faithfuls, from the Bitches to the moms to my Florida Gang know, Ex found the blog. I knew it was only a matter of time, but I honestly never knew what I'd do when he did. So, I put it on invite only and shut it down.

But determined man that he is to hang on to me and my life, despite his protestations and his "get out of my life and you don't exist" attitude towards me, seems he very much is interested in what I have to say and who I have to say it to. Not content with one night of 2 1/2 hours of reading, he has resorted to cache versions. And then Ex found all my bloggy friends and all the places I've posted from Mrs. G to We Make Three to Suzy. And More.

And you know what I realized? LET HIM. I've said it before and I'll say it again: This is my Bloggy and I'll Blog if I want to.

Many of my supporters and virtual friends and not-so-virtual friends have pointed out, "Maybe he'll finally figure out a little something about you." You know what? I. Don't. Care if he does. It's not about him.

It's all about ME. My Life. I've said it since my very first post, before I went public, that this is about ME and MY journey. It's not a place to bash him, although that sometimes happens when I feel He Deserves it. And it's also a place where I say good things about him.

But I digress.

It's about ME. So The Girl Next Door is BACK and HERE TO STAY. And boy, does she have a lot to say now. I have been quiet for a whole week while I traveled and worked and then dealt with HIM.

If he wants to stay the voyeur and look into my life? Go ahead. Kind of like when he moved out but left the cybernanny on MY home computer and continued to read MY emails and track MY life. He doesn't seem to get it that this is MY life. Not his. And I don't answer to him anymore.

Just another reason why I am vindicated. And know that I am exactly where I should be.

So to all my readers, expect a post every day this week, because I am waaaaaaay behind!

But for now I have to unpack and unwind and get ready for KIDS! My favorite time of the week ;-)

27 comments:

Katy said...

Good for you doing what YOU want in YOUR life!

ChiTown Girl said...

Wow!! What a story! For what it's worth, I'm thrilled you're back. And, I'm so proud of you for remembering to put yourself first. You're right, it IS all about you! Welcome Back, Sista!

Persnickety Ticker said...

So glad you didn't let the bastard get you down. And for what he did and is doing? Bastard is an appropriate term. If he doesn't like it, then he can come find me.

So anyway, looking forward to a week of daily posts! Yay!

Kalynne Pudner said...

You know what I bet? I bet he's reading all about the life of this amazing, talented, vivacious, thoughtful, stunningly-beautiful-inside-and-out woman, and feeling every Google hit, hard on his sorry ass. Welcome back!

Laura said...

Delurking...Yay! I was so bummed that your blog was by invite only and so happy when I saw it back online today! From the outside, it seems you have been more than fair to him on here. Keep it up!

JO said...

I echo chitown girl. Welcome back Sista!

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

What a week! It is your life. He's welcome to start his own blog if he has things about his journey he wants to share.

Cybernanny? Boy, I would have been so pissed.

HappyWifeHappyLife said...

I agree - this is your blog. So what if he reads it?

Your life, your blog.

YOU GO, GIRL! :-)

Busy Bee Suz said...

Good for you. Obviously he has nothing else going on, so he has time to read what is going on in your life.
Glad you are back. Take care,
Suz

Cheri @ Blog This Mom! said...

I am so glad that you're back I could CRY. Seriously, I got a tear. I am so impressed when I see such a strong move of action. Action, People, action! Not reaction.

In all of my reading of your blog posts, I have always thought how sweet you are about memories, and how you honor his place in your life/kids' lives. You keep it real, even when you share frustrations.

I'm so glad you are back. So glad. And OUT! You are OUT in the OPEN with your blog. YEAH!!

Also? Stay away from my wife.

Heh.

Karen said...

I believe this is where we say "YOU GO GIRL!"

Clippy Mat said...

glad to have you back. you were missed.
now get cracking.
:-))

Amy said...

Glad to see the absence wasn't toooo long!

And I agree with everyone else - It's your life and your blog. Who cares what he thinks.

ame i. said...

So there! Bleep him and the horse he rode in on. Sorry, innocent horse.
I love (not) the way some men can/will make something that was all about you and try to turn it into something all about him. Heh, the nerve of you, girl, to be honest and lay yourself out there.

dkuroiwa said...

Would it be the weenie's way out to just say..."yeah...what all those 14 who commented before me just said!"??

I'm glad you're back....there comes a time in every girl's life when you just have to say to someone STOP! THIS is MY life...get your own!!
And good for you for doing that!! You've been more than gracious in talking about him...waaaay more than I would have...which shows integrity, my friend. Obviously, the man really has no life and his only thrills come in the form of making your life hell....you owe him nothing...nada...zip...especially here...in YOUR SPACE!!
Welcome back, love. Let the party begin!!!

hulagirlatheart said...

How empowering was that?!!

Carol P. said...

Late to the party, but joining in on the chorus... You go girl! Live your life the way you choose, with the people that you choose. He'll live his the way he chooses.

Hang in there and have the courage of your convictions!

TinkerDoodle said...

Glad to see you back and feeling strong....your a inpiration to a lot of people I'm sure...Hope your trip went well cant wait for all of the blogs!

Sugee Andersyn said...

oh good! You're back!! I didn't know WHAT happened! I finally did my 6 random things since I was also asked by another person and when I went to link you I saw it was on private :( So I didn't put your name on my post :( But anyway I am glad you're back! :)

Robin said...

I thought we'd lost you. I couldn't believe it. And I was trying to figure out how to get invited. I'm thrilled you're back too!!

DysFUNctional Mom said...

So glad you're back and not letting anyone ruin your bloggy fun!

Jason, as himself said...

YAY! Welcome back. I'm glad you weren't gone too long.

Good luck with everything!

LisaDuvall said...

Glad you're back and good for you!!!

just jamie said...

SA-WEET!

kcinnova said...

I'm not a regular visitor, but
you go, girl!!

Feisty Irish Wench said...

They are called "EX" for a reason. Whether they agree with the reasons or not, ex is still ex, period. When we were stationed at Camp LeJune, I learned that one gaggle of gossipy neighbors included me in their conversations, but not actually INVITING me to join them. So, being the antagonistic one that I can be, I started GIVING them something to see and talk about. Then when I moved, I told one of them about it.

Cristy said...

Love your blog and Yay for YOU!! I can tell this is a blog for yourself and nobody else....Let him discover you and know what he's missing! I am so happy that you found yourself, and he should be too.