Next Door 2 .....Paradise: In Fairness to Him

Thursday, April 17, 2008

In Fairness to Him

OK I don't intend this to be an "ex bashing" site - more humorous I hope. So in an attempt at fairness, for background purposes, some good things about my ex:

He helped around the house enormously, laundry, all yard work, cars, vacuuming
He cooked better than I did and was good about helping with that
He schlepped kids when asked
He did all the bills stuff that I hated
He was neat
When we had parties or company, he was helpful and thoughtful and kept me from forgetting important things like napkins, ice, food
He always helped clean up dinner, parties, holidays whatever
He had to be pushed to go "out with the boys" for some fun
He was never a couch potato

Ok so by now you're wondering why I let him go, right? Trust me, it was there. But that's not what this site is about. Not about the past (other than for background). It's about the now, the future, and living side-by-side after living, well, side-by-side for 19 years....

2 comments:

Paranoid said...: Yay! I'm your first comment.

And here's what I have to say: You were unhappy for YEARS. He made you feel unloved and (worse) unloveable. He treated you like garbage, and it seems as if he's still at it. So, why do you feel the need to be fair? It's your blog, it's your life, it's your story. Tell whatever you want to.

Oh, and you rock!; April 17, 2008 at 7:40 PM
The Girl Next Door said...: I love you!!! Thank you. And why do I have to be fair? Well, I don't want to look like a whiney bitchy ex-wife. Even if I am (sometimes)!!

Thanks for your support. I'm still too chicken to tell anyone but you about this blog...; April 18, 2008 at 12:57 PM

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The Cast Of Characters

Me: See about me above

Son: 21 YO, back at college after taking a "break" between his Sophomore and Junior year of college (which lasted exactly 1 semester before he had to go back of his own accord...), ridiculously funny, adorable, smart, athletic, musically gifted and pusher of all my buttons. He's the reason doctors invented Valium.

Daughter: 21 YO SENIOR! in College, intelligent, funny, organized, beautiful, sweet, "blond", thoughtful, friendly, musically gifted, athletic, shortest temper on the planet when it comes to her twin brother. She's the reason vinters invented wine.

The Captain: My "Friend" in earlier posts, my partner, my housemate, my confidante, my Boss's friend of over 25 years. Yeah that's weird. But he is really awesome. And the Love of my Life.

EX: The man I was married to for 20 years who lived next door. Now he's dating the girlfriend he had before we met and pretends I never existed. Really. OH and his GF and I could be twins...except for the outgoing personality part. She is, my children tell me, very sweet and kind and I'm thrilled for them that she is.

Queen Bee: My now deceased 12 YO lab who had gone haywire. She pretended she couldn't hear you when you called her, but the word "TREAT" always got a reaction. She randomly forgot things - like in the middle of fetching the ball forgot what she was doing. She was the best dog ever.

Stinky: AKA Stinky Butt Daughter's Jack Russell who is no longer a Puppy but will always be the "Baby."

GoofusMarufus: The New Rescue Mutt we picked up while visiting Daughter in College. She is gorgeous, funny, but afraid of the strangest things. And she still hasn't learned to sail, sigh. And Stinky Butt, while home on break from College, taught her baaaaaad things!

DRD: Dumb Runaway Dog - Ex's lab who I used to babysit when we lived next door. She's a runner and ended up in the doggy hospital one night. Not. My. Fault. (I was not home!)