Sunday, October 31, 2010

Stop Look & Listen

Today I finally made it back to church. Yet another step in Taking Back My Life. My church does studies in a series. Ironically, they've been doing "relationships" this month. And yet I've missed most of this month.

Today it was about "giving the gift of Presence." In other words - really being there with a friend when you're talking to that friend. It was a powerful message. The speaker (not our pastor - sometimes the Pastor turns the mic over to someone else for a message....) went through the bible and called out passages that highlighted times when Jesus/God "sees us." We also watched a clip from the Joy Luck Club where the mother says to the daughter, "I see you."

The message was powerful - and we even practiced talking to someone, doing active listening, and saying, "I see you."

Truly seeing someone - being in their presence - turning off your own "inner song" and hearing what they are saying - how hard is that sometimes? But today, he made it seem so easy if we just follow the three simple steps.

STOP -just stop whatever you are doing. Stop focusing inward. Just. Stop.
LOOK - face another person. Look them in the eye. SEE THEM.
LISTEN - Practice active listening, "So what I hear you saying is this...." or "It seems like when that happened you felt...."

Give another human being the Gift Of Presence - the gift of truly being in the moment.

Such a simple idea, and yet so hard to do sometimes. This week, I am practicing Giving the Gift of Presence. Because everyone needs to know that God Loves Us - just the way we are. Always.


Gigi said...

That is a powerful message! And something that is very hard to do - I think I'll join you in practicing this!

Busy Bee Suz said...

This is an amazing lesson...I will try it too.

Katy said...

I so need to do this more with my kids. It's so easy to just "half" listen while doing laundry/cooking/cleaning/homework but they KNOW when I'm not really with them and it makes a difference.


ChiTown Girl said...

Thanks for this post. I think most of us need a reminder every once in a while to do this.

ModernMom said...

This really is a powerful message. One that I think that is getting lost in the age of cell phones and portable laptops. It is harder to tune out the world and really listen. I'm going to try and do a better job!

Hula Girl at Heart said...

Oddly enough, I have an easier time doing that as a boss than as a family member. It is a flaw I so want to change, but my "inner song" is so loud and rambuncious.