The holidays were crazy, let's just say. Lots of people, lots and lots and lots of food, some of which decided to take up permanent residence in my already growing hips. Way too much alcohol. I do like the chaos of my family, the singing, the games, the noise.
But I am glad to have the peace and quiet of our house back. Just me and the Captain.
So today for some reason as I'm driving to work, I thought, "What would I change about the Captain if I could?"
And the answer?
Nothing.
Is he "perfect"? - for me, yes. Does he have faults? Of course, but they are what make him so adorable, so The Captain.
And that made me smile, all the rest of the day.
Ironically, Son called to chat midday. Forget that I have a job and that after 2 weeks of sleeping everyone realized they needed me NOW. Of course I put it all aside to talk to him. And we got to talking about his Girlfriend (GF). She is gorgeous, intelligent, thoughtful, sweet, quick witted. But .... but she is very, very quiet and not at all who I ever envisioned for him. And he recognizes the things in her he would like to change. (although he knows he cannot). And that's when I told him....I'd change nothing about the Captain. Not that he should give up on GF. There are events in her life that apparently caused her to go from more outgoing person to this shy person. But he should remember what he wants, what's important, and he should know that 1) he can't change her; 2) there is a person out there for him that he'll look at and say, "I wouldn't change a thing."
Perhaps GF is his ultimate perfection. If she isn't, I hope he doesn't sell himself (and her) short.
Because finding the person you would not change one bit? Priceless.
But I am glad to have the peace and quiet of our house back. Just me and the Captain.
So today for some reason as I'm driving to work, I thought, "What would I change about the Captain if I could?"
And the answer?
Nothing.
Is he "perfect"? - for me, yes. Does he have faults? Of course, but they are what make him so adorable, so The Captain.
And that made me smile, all the rest of the day.
Ironically, Son called to chat midday. Forget that I have a job and that after 2 weeks of sleeping everyone realized they needed me NOW. Of course I put it all aside to talk to him. And we got to talking about his Girlfriend (GF). She is gorgeous, intelligent, thoughtful, sweet, quick witted. But .... but she is very, very quiet and not at all who I ever envisioned for him. And he recognizes the things in her he would like to change. (although he knows he cannot). And that's when I told him....I'd change nothing about the Captain. Not that he should give up on GF. There are events in her life that apparently caused her to go from more outgoing person to this shy person. But he should remember what he wants, what's important, and he should know that 1) he can't change her; 2) there is a person out there for him that he'll look at and say, "I wouldn't change a thing."
Perhaps GF is his ultimate perfection. If she isn't, I hope he doesn't sell himself (and her) short.
Because finding the person you would not change one bit? Priceless.
4 comments:
Ahhhh....I'm so glad YOU are so happy and content. THAT is priceless. I know that your son will figure it soon enough...he is a smart cookie.
XO
Best.Post.Ever.
The one thing that struck me throughout your post is that....you finally like YOURSELF...and in that, you have found the perfect person that needs no changing, you! Yes, this was about The Captain, and yes, this was about the Boy, but the reality is, it speaks volumes about where you are in life. WOOOOOOOOT.
What a great place you are in. It's lovely to see.
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